Attraction and falling in love
Addiction to the initial spark: the dopamine trap
Explore from affective neuroscience why addiction to the initial spark happens and how to break the cycle of chronic pursuit of new emotions.
Attraction and falling in love
Why you are attracted to who you are attracted to: the chemistry of falling in love, love at first sight, emotionally unavailable people, unrequited love, and the patterns that repeat when you choose.
Attraction and falling in love
Honeymoon Anxiety
The initial hormonal intensity can overwhelm your nervous system. Discover why early happiness triggers relational anxiety crises.
Attraction and falling in love
Opening Up Too Much Too Soon
Sharing your traumas on a first date seeks to accelerate attachment. Learn why forced intimacy sabotages relationships and scares off your potential partner.
Attraction and falling in love
Empathy and psychopathy
The attraction between an empathic person and a dark one is rooted in attachment dysfunction. Discover the neuroscience behind this toxic bond.
Attraction and falling in love
Anxiety on first dates: why you sabotage yourself just when you like someone
The more you like someone, the more you freeze up: it's your attachment system activating in the face of something valuable. How to regulate anxiety without sabotaging the beginning.
Attraction and falling in love
Why We Demonize Attachment (and It's the Most Natural Thing)
We demonize attachment as weakness, but it is the neurobiological basis of bonding. How confusing attraction with attachment causes the collapse of stable couples.
Attraction and falling in love
Limerence: when falling in love starts to look like an obsession
Limerence: romantic obsession without love. It's not intensity: it's dopamine and intermittent reinforcement. How to recognize it before your life falls apart.
Attraction and falling in love
Why You're Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable People
Why the unattainable draws you in: it offers intensity without real risk, a logical pattern of the attachment system. How to recognize it and break the cycle.
Attraction and falling in love
How to choose a partner without repeating the same pattern
Choosing a partner well isn't about better judgment: it's about understanding why your system keeps pushing you toward the same type. The spark measures familiarity, not compatibility.
Attraction and falling in love
Unrequited love: why rejection intensifies desire
Unrequited love: how rejection intensifies desire in the dopamine reward system. Why the impossible hooks you and how to let go.